Mila Kunis became a mom almost two-years ago when she and husband, Ashton Kutcher welcomed their daughter, Wyatt. She’s currently out promoting her movie, Bad Moms and made us love her even more when she admitted that she’s not perfect either.
This parenting thing is hard, and there are so many opportunities for us to mess up when it comes to raising our kids, but the pressure is so strong for us to be these perfect, mistake-free people. It’s daunting and pretty much impossible not to mess up at some point (or points) during the day, but not everyone cares to admit to doing so because they think they’re the only ones and that everyone else has it so together. Kunis shared her story about messing up, and being a ‘bad mom’ to her daughter in order to let people know that she can relate, nobody’s perfect.
Social media does nothing to help alleviate some of the stress placed on parents to do everything just so, with images bombarding us at every turn of these perfect meals, or super clean homes, or super clean kids! Worst still are the comments and the mom shaming that goes on online. An innocent photo of a happy moment eating an ice cream on the front steps of a home bring out comments from haters saying how dangerous to have a child on stairs it is, or calling into question a child enjoying the beach with concerns about whether he or she has should be in such bright sun, is wearing enough sunscreen, or is hydrated enough. Please people….get a life!
Kunis sat down with Babble recently to chat about her new movie and shared a story she thought she’d never share with anyone. About a year ago she decided to go on a two hour road trip to visit Kutcher where he was filming. Not a big deal, until you add a one-year-old to the mix, and a once simple trip to the store seems like it requires packing for a month long trip! Kunis revealed that she was feeling pretty good about herself once she was in the car, cruising down the highway, telling Babble, “You have to pack all this stuff up in anticipation of everything going horribly wrong with the first baby,” Kunis laughed. “And I was like, ‘I did it.’ I put her in the car. Like, I high-five myself. [As] I’m driving down the 101, I was like ‘Oh my God, I’m doing really good today.’”
Then she caught sight of little Wyatt in the back seat and was horrified with what she saw. “She was being really quiet, and I was like, ‘Oh, let me look in the rearview mirror to make sure everything’s okay,’” Kunis explained. “And I look, and she’s happy as can be, but just not nearly strapped in.”
We don’t think this actually qualifies as being a ‘bad mom,’ just a human one that makes mistakes. It still haunts me the time I dropped my toddler off at her first “stay & play” playgroup and ran to the book store with my infant when I absent-mindedly got out of the car and took two steps away before realizing I was forgetting something….my baby! It was only for a split second, but I was on the phone, getting a book recommendation from her (about getting your baby to sleep!), and knew I only had about 40 minutes before I had to turn around and get my toddler, so I was sleep deprived and distracted (but what mom isn’t?!).
I see these stories about parents leaving a baby in the car and they haunt me. What’s worse are the people judging those parents for being such awful human beings, questioning how could a parent who loves their child do such a thing. I’m telling you, I only took two steps away from my car, but it stays with me to this day (said infant is now a 12-year-old bouncy baby boy!).
The point is, nobody is perfect. We’re all trying our best. Lets cut each other, (and ourselves) some slack and enjoy this crazy rollercoaster called parenting!
Will you be seeing Bad Moms when it hits theaters July 29th?
In this new comedy from the grateful husbands and devoted fathers who wrote The Hangover, Amy has a seemingly perfect life – a great marriage, over-achieving kids, beautiful home and a career. However she’s over-worked, over-committed and exhausted to the point that she’s about to snap.